This site is dedicated to the memory of Dr. Alan William Smolowe who gave birth to the creation of this database.
American Author, Psychotherapist and Motivational Speaker best known for his book, "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff... and it's all Small Stuff"
"Practicing random kindness is an effective way to get in touch with the joy of giving without expecting anything in return. It's best practiced without letting anyone know what you are doing."
"Our way through life should not be difficult "
"No one knows exactly where thought comes from, but it can be said that thought comes from the same place as whatever it is that beats our heart; it comes from being alive"
"One of the most dynamic and significant changes you can make in your life is to make the commitment to drop all negative references to your past, to begin living now."
"Reading is a gift. It's something you can do almost anytime and anywhere. It can be a tremendous way to learn, relax, and even escape. So, enough about the virtues of reading. Time to read on."
"People who live the most fulfilling lives are the ones who are always rejoicing at what they have."
"Often we allow ourselves to get all worked up about things that, upon closer examination, aren't really that big a deal. We focus on little problems and blow them out of proportion. ... Whether we had to wait in line, listen to unfair criticism, or do the lion's share of the work, it pays enormous dividends if we learn not to worry about little things. So many people spend so much of their life energy sweating the small stuff that they completely lose touch with the magic and beauty of life."
"Our minds can work for us or against us at any given moment. We can learn to accept and live with the natural psychological laws that govern us, understanding how to flow with life rather than struggle against it. We can return to our natural state of contentment."
"Reflection is one of the most underused yet powerful tools for success."
"Remember, when you die, there will still be unfinished business to take care of and you know what"
"Search for the Grain of Truth in Other Opinions"
"Remind yourself that when you die, your IN-basket won"
"Retirement can and will be a glorious time in your life. You'll love the freedom and ability to try new things. It's a new phase of life; a chance to be a beginner again."
"Stress is when you wake up screaming and you realize you haven't fallen asleep yet"
"Slowing down your responses and becoming a better listeners aids you in becoming a more peaceful person"
"Spend a moment, every day, thinking of someone to love."
"Something wonderful begins to happen with the simple realization that life, like an automobile, is driven from the inside out, not the other way around. As you focus more on becoming more peaceful with where you are, rather than focusing on where you would rather be, you begin to find peace right now, in the present. Then, as you move around, try new things, and meet new people, you carry that sense of inner peace with you. It's absolutely true that, 'Wherever you go, there you are."
"Stress is nothing more than a socially acceptable form of mental illness."
"The ill effects of thought come about when we forget that thought is a function of our consciousness... an ability that we as human beings have. We are the producers of our own thinking."
"The first step to becoming a more peaceful person is to have the humility to admit that, in most cases, you're creating your own emergencies. Life will usually go on if things don't go according to plan. It's helpful to keep reminding yourself and repeating the sentence, Life isn't an emergency."
"The need to be right stems from an unhealthy relationship to your own thoughts. Do you believe your thoughts are representative of reality and need to be defended, or do you realize that realities are seen through different eyes? Your answer to this question will determine, to a large extent, your ability to remain in a positive feeling state."
"The old adage, 'If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is' isn't always correct. In fact, the suspicion, cynicism, and doubt that are inherent in this belief can and does keep people from taking advantage of excellent opportunities."
"The key to a good life is this: If you're not going to talk about something during the last hour of your life, then don't make it a top priority during your lifetime."
"The shortest distance between two points is an intention and this is certainly the case when it comes to becoming more loving to oneself and to others. We must first have the desire and then the intention and commitment to be a source of love "
"The trick is to be grateful when your mood is high and graceful when it is low."
"To a happy person, the formula for happiness is quite simple. Regardless of what happened early this morning, last week, or last year"
"Treasure Yourself."
"Trust your intuitive heart."
"Turn Your Melodrama into a Mellow-Drama"
"There is no prescription for how to practice random kindness. It comes from the heart. Your gift might be to pick up litter in your neighborhood, make an anonymous contribution to a charity, send some cash in an unmarked envelope to make someone experiencing financial stress breathe a little easier, save an animal by bringing it to an animal rescue agency, or get a volunteer position feeding hungry people at a church or shelter. You may want to do all these things, and more. The point is, giving is fun and it doesn't have to be expensive."
"Typically you issue those releases when you get partial payment. We were bending over backward, issuing them even when we were not getting partial payment. We stopped doing that when they filed bankruptcy."
"We need to break the habit of overreacting because of our speedy assumption and judgments."
"We tend to focus on the annoying expectation."
"We tend to look up to people who are under a great deal of stress, who can handle loads of stress, and those who are under a great deal of pressure... Stress is nothing more than a socially acceptable form of mental illness."
"When our familiar world falls apart, especially through the pain of death "
"When we criticize another person, it says nothing about that person; it merely says something about our own need to be critical."
"What interferes with this peaceful feeling is our expectation of reciprocity."
"When you let someone else win an argument, often you both end up winners"
"You are what you practice most. [You become what you practice most.]"
"You broke my heart, I stole your lies ,you faked the truth, I hid my cries, Forget who I was, embrace me now, You once we're my wish, I'm yours now."
"Will this matter a year from now?"