This site is dedicated to the memory of Dr. Alan William Smolowe who gave birth to the creation of this database.
Most of our misfortunes are more supportable than the comments of our friends upon them.
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The only kind office performed for us by our friends of which we never complain is our funeral; and the only thing which we most want, happens to the be the only thing we never purchase - our coffin.
Confucius, aka Kong Qiu, Zhongni, K'ung Fu-tzu or Kong Fuzi NULL
The Master said... 'Have no friends not equal to yourself'....The Master said, 'The superior man thinks of virtue; the small man thinks of comfort'... The Master said, 'It is only the wisest and the very stupidest who cannot change.'... Being true to oneself is the law of God. To try to be true to oneself is the law of man.
Change | Comfort | God | Law | Man | Virtue | Virtue | Friends |
If we would build on a sure foundation in friendship, we must love our friends for their sake rather than our own.
Confucius, aka Kong Qiu, Zhongni, K'ung Fu-tzu or Kong Fuzi NULL
Have no friends not equal to yourself.
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In prosperity friends do not leave you unless desired, whereas in adversity they stay away of their own accord.
Adversity | Prosperity | Friends |
Dale Carnegie, originally spelled Dale Carnegey
You can make more friends in two months by becoming really interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
To be deceived by; our enemies or betrayed by our friends is insupportable; yet by ourselves are we often content to be so treated.
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It is more shameful to mistrust one's friends than to be deceived by them.
Laugh, and the world laughs with you; Weep, and you weep alone; For the sad old earth must borrow its mirth, But has trouble enough of its own. Sing, and the hills will answer; Sigh, it is lost on the air; The echoes bound to a joyful sound, But shrink from voicing care. Rejoice, and men will seek you; Grieve, and they turn and go; They want full measure of all your pleasure, But they do not need your woe. Be glad, and your friends are many; Be sad, and you lose them all,— There are none to decline your nectared wine, But alone you must drink life’s gall. Feast, and your halls are crowded; Fast, and the world goes by. Succeed and give, and it helps you live, But no man can help you die. There is room in the halls of pleasure For a large and lordly train, But one by one we must all file on Through the narrow aisles of pain
Earth | Enough | Man | Men | Need | Will | World | Trouble | Friends | Old |
Never explain: your friends don’t require it, and your enemies won’t believe you anyway.
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Never explain. Your friends do not need it and your enemies will not believe you anyway.
Where parents do too much for their children, the children will not do much for themselves.
I have no sympathy with the old idea that children owe such immense gratitude to their parents that they can never fulfill their obligations to them. I think the obligation is all on the other side. Parents can never do too much for their children to repay them for the injustice of having brought them into the world, unless they have insured them high moral and intellectual gifts, fine physical health, and enough money and education to render life something more than one careless struggle for necessaries.
Children | Education | Enough | Gratitude | Health | Injustice | Injustice | Life | Life | Money | Obligation | Parents | Struggle | Sympathy | World | Old | Think |
The joys of parents are secret; and so are their griefs and fears. They cannot utter the one; nor they will not utter the other. Children sweeten labors; but they make misfortunes more bitter. They increase the cares of life; but they mitigate the remembrance of death. The perpetuity by generation is common to beasts; but memory, merit, and noble works are proper to men.
Children | Death | Life | Life | Memory | Men | Merit | Parents | Will |
Happy are the families where the government of parents is the reign of affection, and obedience of the children the submission of love.
Children | Government | Happy | Love | Obedience | Parents | Submission | Government |